How to be a calmer person.

You can naturally be a calm person I would consider myself to be a calm person but some people need a little extra help to get there.

Coming from a person that felt (notice I said felt and not ‘was’) angry a lot of the time I had to bring myself to a place of peace so I could live without the constant and exhausting angry energy. 

One of the biggest things for me was to learn where I was most happy, most comfortable and really reside there and never take in any anger or Ill emotion into that “safe space” that for me was my home, a lot of people ask how do you stay at home and not go mad? 

Honestly this is my haven, I can do what I want when I want, I can listen to music I don’t have to conform to anything I can just be myself with my own thoughts and in my own space knowing it’s completely protected from any outside source. I remain very conscious of whom I allow into my personal space too, I worked very hard to make this house a home and a home of calm and peace so I don’t just allow anyone into it! Pay attention to how you feel around certain people, if someone “pops” in and has a cup of tea with you how do you feel after? Irritated? Chilled? 

I regularly cleanse my home with sage, lavender and when I want to completely rid the house of energy to just “clear out” il smoke some palo santo wood (also good to use after someone has been I’ll, or if there has been any negative energy spent in your space like an argument).     I have my evil eye at my door and have obsidian dotted around that I also cleanse weekly, people that serve you well will feel completely calm and relaxed in your space others that feel uncomfortable anxious and fidgety I would say not so much well wishing is coming from them.

So, how do we remain calm? 

Become comfortable in your own company, when you feel the peace from not being around drama it becomes addictive, 

I always use my time to do what I love, be creative, burn some herbs, spell work what ever it is do it! 

Learn to be happy in your own company, understand that when you are on your own it is not boring it is giving you the time and space to learn something new, work on the project you never got around to, do the thing you love, let the brain release that happy hormone and soon enough you will find yourself being more and more happy on your own.

Don’t take it personal.

Don’t take things so personal, if someone calls you something comments on something your wearing, makes fun of your hair, they are unhealed individuals with their own problems we don’t need to accept their negativity, disregard and go about your day! 

Think about it realistically are we really going to let our day be ruined by someone else’s “opinion” ?      Absolutely not, they serve no purpose in our life so move on and take note of the things that make you smile instead.

Breathe.

Breathe in that fresh air, I always find myself headed to wooded areas to just take in some deep breath’s,

Side note - did you know in Japan instead of medicating you for anxiety and depression they will actually give you a work note to take time off to go to a woodland retreat because being amongst the trees is not just relaxing but they can give off an actual type of gas that naturally reduces stress levels, pine trees release a “toxin” that is good for asthma too it helps the lungs to breathe and cleanse, So being amongst the trees really is good for our health, head there sit and a breath.

Avoid those triggers.

Anything that naturally makes you feel mad stay away from, why put yourself in the line of destruction? Just stay away and that includes people too, if you know they always have a way of saying something that makes you bite stay away, learn your triggers so you know what to avoid, if something triggers you, understand that is your bodies energy rejecting that energy telling you this is not for us.

This is how you master calming yourself, become comfortable in your own company, get comfortable being alone.

Remember to take a minute to breathe, get out to a place you find relaxing and breathe, and whilst your doing that try clearing the mind and meditate a little it is really easy but so beneficial for our mind.

Last avoid anything that does not serve you, I don’t even entertain small talk anymore because my time is valuable! Some people may think that’s “snotty” or I think of myself better than others absolutely not I’m no better than anyone but my time IS valuable and where I choose to spend my time is only ever going to benefit me so if something serves no purpose I have no problem in saying no and avoiding, we will only ever truly make ourself happy! No one else can do that, others can aid in us being happy but the true happiness peaceful calm life will only ever come from ourself.

Yours truly.

H. X